Monday, 19 October 2015

Pope Francis and the Synod. Catholic church in chaos. Cardinals Pell, Burke, Kasper, Napier. Bishop Schneider. Father Lombardi. Opus Dei. Edward Pentin. John Smeaton. Gloria TV. EWTN.

Posted by my courageous daughter Dominie on her blog on 15 October 2015. 
I have added the photos of the warring protagonists.
Dominie has just left Opus Dei after seven years.

Catholic laity have the right to challenge church leaders if the Faith is in danger, in public if necessary.

It can be a grave sin of omission to be silent when one should speak out - including in public! And yes, you may lose much for standing up for Truth.

Image result for cardinal pellImage result for cardinal Burke            Image result for cardinal kasper
Cardinal Pell                                   Cardinal Burke                     Cardinal Kasper                                                                              
As I write this in October 2015, we are in the middle of the Ordinary Synod on the Family, which is taking part in the Vatican. It follows on from last year's Extraordinary Synod, which was one of the most shameful events in the history of the Catholic Church. It would have been even more deplorable if that great Cardinal George Pell hadn't bashed his rugby playing fist on the table telling the synod mafia to "stop manipulating the synod!". His intervention prevented total disaster and chaos. The ecclesiastical blows were well and truly punching on all fronts last year, and Cardinal Kasper was seen shouting at Cardinal Burke. Cardinal Kasper of the German faction is pushing a heretical agenda, while Cardinal Burke is standing up for perennial teaching.

It  later emerged that the Synod was most likely pre-rigged according to EWTN's veteran journalist Edward Pentin - see his online book - now the top seller in the Catholic section.

Father Lombardi

This year's synod is starting to resemble a pantomime except no one is laughing but many are weeping. Many clergy and laity alike are feeling extremely perturbed and confused by the proceedings, which seem to change daily according to the whims of the very slick and quietly spoken Italian Father Lombardi. 

This synod is meant to be about families, and how to pass on the authentic Catholic Faith. But has there been anything on the family? In short No. But there are clearly lobbies with different 'agendas' - the gay lobby, and those pushing for communion for public adulterers. These lobbies seem to stem very much from the West, and in particular Germany, where there is a church tax making the Catholic church there terribly rich - but the churches are largely empty. The German hierarchy seem to think they need to ditch all the teachings in order to fill the pews. Martin Luther would be proud of them.

Other heresies being proposed are things like devolving bishops conferences, so that they can each decide their own solutions to problems, which would naturally touch on doctrine. But this would make them no different from protestant communities. If this were to happen, the Catholic Church would cease to be universal. Other ridiculous ideas are to change language, so that words like "indissoluble" become "faithful" - sorry but the 2 terms mean entirely different things. This is a very clever tactic used by progressives, to enable behaviour change.

The root of the problem of this year's Synod is the working document, called the Instrumentum Laboris. Veteran pro-lifer John Smeaton of SPUC has taken this document apart, and gave an excellent interview on GloriaTV about why this document is flawed. He says the use of ambiguous language is of concern, together with proposals which are frankly not Catholic. I would urge you to watch this interview. John is in Rome for the duration of the Synod, representing a new umbrella organisation called, "Voice of the Family". He goes so far as to say, that the working document is a danger to families, and to the unborn. 

So what are faithful practising Catholics to do when confronted by this sort of shenanigans in the Church? 
Do we just lie back, and think of the Vatican? Just sit in our comfy zones, heads in sand and all that? St Thomas Aquinas - angelic Doctor of the Church does not agree with this attitude at all!

in St Thomas' huge work called the Summa Theologica, point no 33 says,
"Fraternal Correction, including that of prelates (i.e. clergy) by their subjects is a precept of charity. If the Faith were in danger, a subject (i.e. a lay person) ought to rebuke his prelate - even publicly." The implication is that to do and say nothing is a sin of omission.

There is a famous saying - I forget who said it. It goes something like this - "It only takes good men to do nothing, for evil to triumph". The Catechism of the Catholic Church has a list of sins of omission - and this includes the sin of silence when one should speak out.

Bishop Schneider

At last year's synod, Bishop Schneider of Kazakstan thanked Catholic bloggers for exposing the machinations.

So Catholics - and I address especially those from conservative groups - you have the right and duty to speak out when the Faith is being attacked. Certain groups (like Opus Dei) hold a position of 'never criticising' the hierarchy (I would agree with this when the Church is behaving normally - which it isn't at the moment).   We are in emergency times in the Catholic Church, really since the close of the Second Vatican Council, where there has been tremendous confusion since. One only has to look at the lapsation rate of Catholic school leavers, currently at 96%. Has silence got anywhere? - has Church of Nice made many converts? NO. We need to get back to Church of Truth. 

The Code of Canon Law also says the laity have the right to challenge clergy if the Faith is in danger, as John Smeaton stated in his recent interview.

Pope Francis with Cardinal Napier  
Father Thomas Rosica

I saw this in action on Twitter a few days ago, where that towering prince Cardinal Wilfrid Napier challenged Father Thomas Rosica publicly. (Father Rosica is a synod organiser, who has a certain 'agenda'). Cardinal Napier says Twitter is the most important platform for getting information on what is happening in the Catholic Church. 

There are some truly excellent blogs out there and I will name just a few.

Father Ray Blake's 
Fathers Tomlinson and Hunwicke of the Ordinariate
1 Peter 5
Edward Pentin for the National Catholic Register
Vox Cantoris
Mark Lambert's
Deacon Donnelly for Catholic Voice Ireland
Rorate Caeli
Eponymous Flower
Fr Dickson's
Lifesite news
Voice of the Family
Catholic Family News
Eccles - biting satire and wit
Laurence England
Louie Verrecchio - razor sharp insight

Arm yourselves spiritually with frequent sacraments, the daily rosary and the wearing of the brown scapular of Carmel.

Wife (of 30 yrs) - 3 children. Catholic writer and qualified catechist. Having studied the Vatican 2 documents in depth, rapidly concluding that they are written in vague 'doublespeak' language, I call it a dreadful Council. Cardinal Kasper said it was DELIBERATELY done. Bishop Schneider (a hero bishop) is calling for a new syllabus of ERRORS of Vatican 2. I agree! I pray for Old Rite Mass in every parish in the world. Twitter @DominieStemp

Sunday, 16 August 2015

Jeremy Corbyn. Tony Blair. Labour Leadership. Bishopsgate Institute. Andrew Roth.

Contenders for the Labour leadership
Yvette Cooper, Jeremy Corbyn, Liz Kendall, Andy Burnham

Left-wing Jeremy Corbyn has unexpectedly become the 1/4 odds-on favourite for the Labour leadership, and this week Tony Blair made an emotional and over the top appeal in the Guardian to Labour supporters not to vote for him in the coming ballot:

"The party is walking eyes shut, arms outstretched, over the cliff’s edge to the jagged rocks below….. If Jeremy Corbyn becomes leader it won’t be a defeat like 1983 or 2015 at the next election.  It will mean rout, possibly annihilation."

It is easy to see why Blair has such antipathy towards him: Corbyn holds the record for being the most rebellious of all Labour MPs and was a constant thorn in Blair's side throughout his premiership from 1997 to 2007. 

Blair holds the record for being the most war-mongering prime minister in our history and Corbyn constantly opposed and voted against British participation in Iraq in 1998 and 2003, Kosovo in 1999, Sierra Leone in 2000 and Afghanistan in 2001. He took part in many rallies against the Iraq War, and has led the Stop the War coalition since 2001; he was one of only 12 Labour MPs demanding an inquiry into the invasion.

Andrew Roth, 1919-2010

The Bishopsgate Institute holds the archives of the late journalist and biographer Andrew Roth which Jenny Stevens of the Independent has called "a treasure trove for political journalists and biographers." The Institute has ten pages on Jeremy Corbyn from Roth's Parliamentary Profiles 2005 edition, and here is just a sample: 

Jeremy Corbyn

Outlook: Labour's leading serially-rebellious backbencher, the list of whose dissident votes is effectively synonymous with a tally of all the revolts against the Government; sometimes he rebels on his own; in the '97 to '01 Parliament he was top rebel with 64 deviant votes; a seagreen incorruptible, hyper-active, quasi-Trotskyist (LONDON LABOUR BRIEFING) hard-Leftist attempting only visually to mellow: has moved out of Oxfam-reject clothes into smart jackets, one burgundy;.....ignoring Tony Blair's wish for an uncontested Shadow Cabinet, entered the ballot, receiving 37 votes July '96; backed Clare Short's attack on spin- doctors but preferred blaming "the direction in which Tony Blair is trying to take the party;".....opposed Blair leadership's move toward centrally-approved register of potential candidates as a "pretty appalling vista" July '97”; 

Traits: Slight; bearded; "his bearded and flint-like features appear to have been carved from rock, after the brutalist manner of early Socialist Realism; he never smiles" (Matthew Parris, TIMES); he "may have a rollicking sense of humour, though I have never heard it in public" (Simon Hoggart, GUARDIAN); "solemn, bearded and intense", "gaunt and stricken", "like some Renaissance Crucifixion" (David McKie, GUARDIAN); "I started wearing a beard when I was 19 and living in Jamaica; they called me `Mr Beardman'"(JC); in Jan '02 he won the Beard Liberation Front's Beard-of-the-Year Award, beating Rolf Harris; "whilst most of his chums have all moderated their views, dumped their corduroy jackets and grey suits, shaved their beards, and quietly cancelled their CND subscriptions, [he] has hardly changed a bit; he is the Fidel Castro of London N1" (Robert Hardman, DAILY TELEGRAPH); "Corbin-Laden" (Labour Whip's notation); bitter- tongued; manipulative; "he can be so nice, but when he thinks he's right about something important, he becomes a different person" (Labour MP-colleague); a "spray-on proletarian" (Edward Pearce, DAILY TELEGRAPH); formerly "the nearest thing Parliament has to a Greenham Common man"; his new "red jacket...burns like a beacon" (Max Davidson, DAILY TELEGRAPH); "I dress in a  comfortable and casual style in which I feel best able to serve my constituents"; cyclist ("I have had the same bike since I was 12"); vegetarian; formerly very close to Diane Abbott.

  • Ballot papers for the Labour leadership contest are currently in the post to party members, registered and affiliated supporters.
  • Voting can take place by post or online. 
  • They must be returned by 10 September. 
  • The result is on 12 September

Paddy Power betting odds

  • Jeremy Corbyn 1/4
  • Andy Burnham 9/2
  • Yvette Cooper 9/1
  • Liz Kendall 100/1

Friday, 14 August 2015

Sir Edward Heath's sexuality. Andrew Roth. Heath and the Heathmen. Lord Armstrong. Charles Moore. Moura Lympany

Sir Edward Heath,  c.1972, by Barry Ernest Fantoni
National Portrait Gallery
the year before Heath took Britain into the EEC

Debate on Sir Edward Heath's sexuality has come to the fore yet again, with the surprising and shocking news that various police forces are investigating multiple allegations of child sex abuse  by Sir Edward Heath, 1916–2005, the Conservative Prime Minister from 1970–1974.

Heath's reputation concerning these allegations is being robustly defended by those who knew him and worked for him, including his bodyguards and Lord Armstrong of Ilminster, prime minister Heath's former principal private secretary from 1970. Charles Moore, former editor of The Spectator, The Sunday Telegraph and the Daily Telegraph, and biographer of Margaret Thatcher says in today's Telegraph that the allegations "are driven not by evidence, but by hysteria". 

Andrew with my sister Antoinette

I did newspaper cuttings for my late brother-in-law Andrew Roth who was well-known for his Parliamentary Profiles, and obituaries on politicians for The Guardian and other newspapers. He did meticulous research on everyone he wrote about, and showed his drafts to the recipients for revisions before going into print.

Paperback, £4.48 Amazon

Heath and the Heathmen came out in 1971, wherein Roth summed up Heath as having “two basic repressions, social and sexual”

In 2001 Andrew gave a further  take on Heath's sexuality in his Parliamentary Profiles.

Moura Lympany

"A lifelong bachelor, Sir Edward has a few close women friends among fellow musicians and actresses, but he prefers the company of men. When I researched my biography Heath and the Heathmen 29 years ago, women soldiers who served in his artillery company said he refused to talk to them. The famous pianist Moura Lympany thought he would marry her, but when I asked about the most intimate thing he had done, she replied, "He put his arm around my shoulder."

Monday, 3 August 2015

Swarms from the Jungle. Immigration Guide for new residents to the UK. Life in the United Kingdom test. Welsh, Scottish and Northern Irish artists: John Petts,David Allen, Sir John Lavery. Augustus John, Dylan Thomas, William Crozier, Sir Henry Raeburn

The global migration crisis is ongoing, and anyone would think that animals were coming here, judging from David Cameron's terminology 'swarms' - which he used to describe for the many would-be immigrants who are based in the unfortunately named Jungle camp in Calais. They are currently risking their lives to get into the UK. 

If they and other potential citizens applying for UK citizenship or permanent residency eventually manage to pass the increasingly stringent criteria of the British government,  a  45 minute Life in the United Kingdom test costing £50 has to be taken at one of 90 centres around the UK. The test is computer-based and there are 24 multi-choice questions. Eighteen correct answers are needed to pass.

Life in the United Kingdom: A Guide for New Residents, 3rd Edition,  £12.99, is the official handbook needed to pass the test, with a range of topics including:
  • the process of becoming a citizen or permanent resident
  • the values and principles of the UK
  • traditions and culture from around the UK
  • the events and people that have shaped the UK's history
  • the government and the law
  • getting involved in your community
The book is an astonishingly interesting read, with lovely photos, which could easily be adapted for schools. The author however is not named, and thoroughly deserves to be.  

British inventions and discoveries, betting, places of interest, sport, music, famous battles, the American War of Independence, Welsh cakes, places of interest and the first verse of the national anthem are all covered, among the many topics. 

There are two pages under Art, and only thirteen notable British artists are named: Gainsborough, Turner, Constable, three Pre-Raphaelites - Holman Hunt, Rosetti and Sir John Millais -, Henry Moore, Lucian Freud, David Hockney, John Petts, Sir John Lavery and David Allan.

Previous editions were criticised for not having enough references to Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland so as a sop perhaps this most recent edition has added Petts, David Allan and Lavery to represent them. Apart from art historians  not many people may have heard of the last three, and I have had to look them up. 

John Petts (1944-91) was born in London, but is considered Welsh, according to Wikipedia. He is best known for his engravings and stained glass.

Stained glass window  by John Petts
16th Street Baptist Church in Birmingham, Alabama, 
erected after a racially motivated bombing  of the church in 1963
   killed four African-American girls aged 11-14

Augustus John, 1878 – 31, who was born in Tenby, would have been a far better choice to represent notable Welsh artists. He painted many portraits and is rumoured to have fathered over 100 children.

Dylan Thomas by Augustus John,  1937–1938
National Museum, Cardiff

Sir John Lavery (1856-1941) was a well-known Northern Irish portrait painter who painted his second wife Hazel Martyn, an Irish-American,  more than 400 times. He painted her for the allegorical figure of Ireland on Irish banknotes from 1928 until 1975. They had a tempestuous marriage and Lady Lavery was reportedly unfaithful. The guide for Life in the United Kingdom made a good choice with this artist, and his wife on the banknote is in Irish national costume. 

Hazel in rose and grey by Sir John Lavery, c 1920
Barbican Art Gallery

David Allan (1744-96) was a Scottish painter best known for portraits, and the guide tells would-be citizens that one of his most famous works is called The Origin of Painting.  

The Origin of Painting,1775
(The Maid of Corinth)
by David Allan
Scottish National Gallery

Rather than the Maid of Corinth painting by Petts, which has nothing to do with Scotland, the author of the guide Life in the United Kingdom could have mentioned any number of Scottish landscape artists such as William Crozier, (1893 – 1930), who painted this splendid view of Edinburgh below.

Edinburgh (from Salisbury Crags), 1927, by William Crozier 
National Gallery of Scotland.

The Skating Minister is  allegedly by Sir Henry Raeburn, 1790s
 National Gallery of Scotland.

The Reverend Robert Walker Skating on Duddingston Loch is one of Scotland's most famous paintings, but some art historians claim it could be by French artist Henri-Pierre Danloux rather than by the Scottish Sir Henry Raeburn. 

Life in the United KingdomOfficial Practice Questions and Answers, by Michael Mitchell, £7.99,  is a revision guide.  Both books are published by the Stationery Office/TSO on behalf of The Home Office.  This book gives multiple choice sample questions, eg:

Who is the Patron Saint of Scotland?

A) St Andrew
B) St David
C) St George
D) St Patrick

and the amusing Question 23:

Which of the following statements is correct?

A)  Cricket matches can last up to five days.
B)  Cricket matches can last up to two weeks.

More than 150,000 Life in the UK tests were taken nationally last year. 

Wednesday, 25 March 2015

Fifty Shades of Marriage - a wife's view. Cardinal Kasper. Padre Pio.

My daughter Dominie and son-in-law Matthew are about to celebrate their thirtieth wedding anniversary  and this article is taken from

Fifty Shades of Marriage - a wife's view, by Dominie Stemp

Our wedding day nearly 30 years ago

1) I have never read or watched, nor intend to read or watch  "50 Shades of Grey" - a novel which delights in glamorising the breaking of the 6th Commandment. I am shocked that some friends of mine have read and even seen the film. I wonder why?
2) So why am I writing a blog on marriage? Well - I am pretty qualified. You see, we are about to celebrate our Pearl wedding anniversary and I am as besotted with my husband as I was the day we got engaged 32 years ago, at the age of 20. 
3) But I also feel the institution of marriage has never been so under attack as it is now. Successive governments have made it practically impossible for a husband to support his wife and children, by penalising marriage in the tax system. This has forced many mothers out to work, many of whom would rather look after their children (many surveys confirm this). This has indirectly affected marriage and led to many break-ups. The consequences are self-evident - many children now grow up in broken homes - making them feel insecure, not to mention other problems associated with marital break-up. 
4) Shockingly - marriage is even under attack from within the Catholic Church - with the up-coming Synod on the Family in October. A cardinal by name of Kasper has decided that the term "adultery" is now offensive and he thinks it an out-dated Commandment. His nasty 'agenda' is to allow divorce and re-marriage in the Catholic Church. He appears to have a legion of cardinals following him. We have a God-given duty to resist this agenda. More on this in another blog soon.
5) Marriage is the oldest institution in the world. God instituted it through our first parents - Adam and Eve. Adam was made before Eve. Eve was made to help Adam and St Paul confirms this in one of his letters to the Corinthians - woman was made for man.
6) Marriage was instituted primarily for the procreation and upbringing of children. Studies show children brought up in traditional marriages thrive more than those who are in single parent families or broken homes.
7) Nowadays many men no longer know what their role in life is - the genders are so blurred that they have lost sight of their masculinity. Women have fuelled this by their demands for equality - making them strident and harsh feminists - who have lost sight of their femininity or their natural role in life. 
8) Many women now swear like troopers. They have lost sight of their soft nature.
9) Many women now drink like men - making themselves so drunk they end up sleeping with any man who takes their fancy. Their availability makes them unattractive, and they are unlikely to find a decent man who will marry them. That is very sad.
10) Of course men and women are equal - BUT they are different. They are complementary.
11) My Catholic granny taught me a lot, and on marriage she said it was for life - end of story! You see - if you go into a marriage thinking that if it goes wrong you can just get divorced, I guarantee you will divorce. You have to go into marriage with the right mentality.
 12) Don't be unfaithful to your husband before you meet him. Keep yourself pure and your marriage is more likely to last. Statistics bear this out. The more bed-partners you have, the more your eventual marriage is likely to fail. By contrast, those couples who waited - generally do not divorce. Again - statistics bear this out. I think the charity, "Family and Youth Concern" have the figures.
13) Don't let yourself 'go' when you get married. Your appearance is still important. Men are visual creatures - women are not so influenced by what they see - they are more affected by emotions. St Paul says married women should adorn themselves for their husbands - lest the husband runs off with another woman. 
14) But he exhorts single girls not to adorn themselves, but  to dress in modest attire, so as not to tempt men to sin. If only young girls of today would take his advice! Look at what some girls wear - nothing left to the imagination at all!
15) Artificial birth control has arguably done more to contribute to divorce than any other factor. If you remove the procreative element from the marital act, any behaviour is permissible, such as adultery. Adultery usually results in divorce. Divorce is bad for society and costs the taxpayer millions.
 16) Artificial birth control is a passion killer - literally. The pill and other hormonal devices reduce a woman's libido - giving her the classic, "I have a headache tonight dear" excuse. If the woman is not carrying out her marital duties, the husband could be tempted to look elsewhere for it - leading to adultery - divorce etc.
17) Artificial birth control is a spiritual killer too. The person contracepting, is telling his or her spouse - "you can have me, but not my fertility". Pope John Paul II taught that fertility is part of our personhood. It is part of who we are. The Catholic Church teaches that, if there is  truly a grave reason to avoid having a child, the natural method is allowed. A woman is only fertile for 24 hours per month at the most. It isn't difficult to spot the fertile signs.
18) Artificial birth control has many dangerous physical side-effects - which often don't get pointed out. The physical barriers are bad for the cervix - sperm actually helps prevent cervical cancer, so if you have a barrier in the way, you won't get the benefits.
19) Keep yourself trim - best to weigh yourself once a week - the pounds can so easily pile on - and after age 35 the metabolism slows down drastically! I know!
20) Keep the flame of romance alive by going on 'dates'. This is very important. Join a babysitting club if babysitters are unaffordable. When you eat in - light a candle and turn the lights down. Put on nice music.
21) Keep up to date with your wardrobe - have an evaluation of your clothes twice a year - chucking out anything which doesn't suit you, or fit you. A very good tip - John Lewis do a  personal shopping service, which includes having your colours 'done' by a qualified person. The service is free if you spend a modest amount. It is a good investment as it should stop more 'mistakes'. Look on their website for details. They are brutally honest, and will tell you if an item of clothing suits you or not. You can always donate old clothes to charity or sell them on eBay.
 22) Nothing is more unfeminine than seeing swathes of women of all ages in these awful black leggings/jeggings/trousers whatever you like to call this hideous fashion! The fabric leaves nothing to the imagination at all - showing every lump and bump (in the private regions). The same for all trousers (in my opinion). My spiritual father St Padre Pio would not give absolution to a shop lady until she got rid of all the trousers in her shop! This is true, and recounted in his biography. Out of deference to Padre Pio, I don't own a single pair.
23) A woman generally has nice legs below the knee - a wife should not cover them up.
24)  Nothing is more of a passion killer than a wife wearing a hideous 'onesie' - golly how on earth do husbands put up with this awful piece of clothing, which is nothing other than a giant babygro! Usually in garish colours and patterns. BIN THEM NOW! 
25) Another passion killer is thick pyjamas in hideous colours and patterns. BIN THEM NOW! They are also terribly uncomfortable.
26) Nightwear is very important - a nightdress or long nightshirt in a soft material like mercerised cotton is much more romantic. Keep the colour simple with maybe a self-stripe.
27) Make sure you don't have a grannyish quilted dressing gown in a garish colour and/or pattern. There are some very nice soft ones in velvety and satiny materials.
28) Underwear is terribly important - bin any out-of-shape grey pants, vests and bras. Get yourself measured every 6 months and a good supportive bra is very important -otherwise your chest can droop to the knees! I went to Rigby and Peller recently to be measured properly. Marks and Spencer's also offer a bra measuring service. Don't be afraid to wear coloured bras. Best have a variety of colours and neutrals.
 29) Wear nice pants - Marks and Spencer do a nice French range in tasteful colours - in silky and lace materials. Don't go to Ann Summers or Agent Provocateur. These tasteless shops only fuel the porn industry - the scourge of society. If you are a man reading this, pornography causes impotence! Bin pornography!
30) The sun causes 90% of skin ageing. If you go into the sun - at least wear a 30 factor sunscreen. A wide-brimmed hat also helps, and sunglasses with thick sides. You don't want to look like a wrinkled lady, if you can help it! Sunscreen factor 30 should be worn all year round according to dermatologists. Also sugar ages skin, causing wrinkles. Wean yourself off sweets and sugar products. Honey is a great substitute and called a 'miracle' food.
31) Wear a nice perfume - if you have been changing nappies and doing household chores all day, you won't like to smell of baby vomit etc.
 32) Lipstick is pretty essential - and cheap. Go to Boots and get a free personalised service which photographs your skin tone to tell you which colour lipsticks will suit you. It is the biggest 'pick-me-up' and quick as a flash to apply.
33) When you start going grey - unless it suits your skin tone, you will want to dye it. You may need to go a couple of shades lighter than the colour you were born with. The downside - the more grey you go, the more often you have to have the roots done - every 2-3 weeks. You can always go home with wet hair and dry it yourself if the costs get too much. Some women use home kits - but this is not recommended if you have a light coloured carpet in the bathroom!
34) Keep your hair washed as often as needed for your type of hair. Lank hair is a turn-off.
35) Apparently there was a news item recently which said many women no longer bathe daily. Don't they care if they smell?!
36) A few drops of bath oil in the bath is as good as a body moisturiser. And it makes the water smell nice. 
37) It is probably a good idea to keep hair at bay from legs and under-arms. Facial hair can be problematic and needs dealing with.
38) Buy your husband little treats every now and then.
39) Don't expect your husband to wash and iron his shirts! This is so emasculating.
40) Have your hair cut or trimmed every 6-8 weeks - or you will look unkempt like Mrs Havisham in Great Expectations.
41) Don't let the children just leave their toys all over the house. If you have to - just bung them in a cupboard somewhere, so they are out of sight.
42) Evaluate your weekly menu-planning. Learn new recipes. Plan your menus for the week ahead, and only buy the ingredients necessary. Otherwise you end up buying a hotch potch of ingredients with no advance planning. You end up having to go back and get more groceries if there is no plan.
43) Don't chew your finger nails. Nothing is more unsightly. Keep nails filed and shine them with a buffer.
44) Use hand cream every day, or you will get prune-like hands!
45) Keep abreast of news from a variety of sources, so you have something intelligent to say.
46) Don't forget your husband's parents' birthday and Christmas presents. Men are not particularly good at these little tasks.
47) My granny taught me that the husband is the head of the house.
48) Don't row in front of the children. It sets a bad example. 
49) Don't use coarse language in front of your husband and children. It is a turn-off
50) And finally - tell your husband that you love him - as often as needed. And promise me - you won't go to bed in curlers! 

A book I really recommend is by Colleen Hammond - "Dressing with Dignity" - available from Amazon.